The Ups and Downs of Traveling Alone

I’ve been traveling the globe on my own for 6 months now. I’m what they call a “Solo Traveler.” (Like we need a label to declare we’re on our own!!) When I meet people for the first time, one of the first questions they inevitably ask is, “You’re traveling alone?” My answer is met with various reactions:

  • Complete horror – assumption that it’s lonely and dangerous to be on my own.
  • Praise of my courage and bravery – because it takes guts to travel on your own
  • Fellowship – because a lot of other people out there solo travel, too!

I’ve met many people that want to travel but are too afraid to do it on their own. They have preconceived ideas of what will happen if they’re on their own, but the end result is, they cut themselves off from any travel experience. It’s so sad! While it’s great to travel with friends, a lot of the time friends really do want to join you but then life happens and when it comes to booking tickets, they’ll leave you with the decision of traveling on your own or not going.

For anyone considering solo travel, here are a few ideas of the “good” and “bad” (in quotes because those are just judgments) aspects of traveling on your own:

Full control and freedom. You get to decide where you go, when you go, what you do, your schedule, and more. You have 100% choice and when you make a plan, or change a plan, you don’t have to run it by anybody. If you feel like meditating on the top of a mountain, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone you can just go do it! If you meet someone you like, you can stay with them. If you meet someone you don’t like, you can leave!

Eating alone. I often eat lunch and dinner by myself, in a cafe or a restaurant, if I’m not staying in a place that has a kitchen. I’m so used to it I don’t care. But, I happen to be really social. So, most of the time I end up chatting either with the restaurant staff, or the table next to mine, and making a new acquaintance, and, in some cases, a new friend!

Getting sick. Sometimes you do want to know someone will take care of you, or at least check in with you, if you’re sick. Going to the doctor on your own isn’t so fun, but can be an adventure! Worst case, find a place you feel safe and comfortable, notify the hotel staff you are sick if it’s that bad, contact a friend or family member and ask them to check on you.

Being safe. Yes, there are some places that are unsafe for women alone. So, don’t go there! I made a habit of asking the owners of anyplace I stayed whether it was unsafe for me to be out past a certain hour. If they warned me, I listened. I never got drunk and would not accept a drink from a stranger. Putting down my location with the STEP program also made me feel that at least the US government would know where I was.

Meeting other people. For whatever reason, when you’re traveling alone, you meet more people. I think you are more approachable because you’re alone, and on the flip side, you are more eager to meet people, so will try harder to connect with people. I love this aspect of solo travel!

Running into challenges. So far, whatever issues I’ve run into, I’ve been fortunate to meet someone that can help, or simply ask someone for help, or get myself out of a bad situation. Being alone teaches you that it’s OK to ask for help and accept it.

Selfies. OK, it can feel kind of dorky to take lots of selfie photos, but most people I’ve had the pleasure of meeting have been willing to take a photo of me with my camera when I asked! 🙂

PS – if you are considering solo travel, check out The Solo Traveler blog by Janice Waugh. It has fantastic resources and tips!